When someone you know loses a loved one, words can feel inadequate and the right gesture hard to judge. Sending flowers is a quiet, respectful way to show you are thinking of the family, as long as you choose with care.
This guide covers what flowers are appropriate to send, the cultural points to keep in mind in Singapore, and what to write on the card. For arrangements suited to a wake, our condolence flowers are prepared with these customs in mind.
Quick answer: For condolence flowers, white blooms such as lilies, chrysanthemums and orchids are the most appropriate, symbolising peace and respect. Send them to arrive before the wake, keep the card message sincere and brief, and consider the family’s cultural and religious customs.
Which Flowers Are Appropriate
White is the traditional colour of sympathy, representing purity, peace and respect. White lilies, chrysanthemums and orchids are the most widely suitable choices for a wake or funeral. Wreaths and standing arrangements are customary for funerals in Singapore, while a smaller bouquet may suit a visit to the family’s home. Avoid bright, cheerful blooms, which can feel out of place in a moment of grief.
Cultural Considerations in Singapore
Singapore is multicultural, and customs differ between communities, so a little thought goes a long way.
Chinese Funerals
White and yellow flowers are most appropriate, with chrysanthemums, lilies and orchids being favoured. Wreaths and standing sprays are commonly sent to the wake.
Christian Funerals
White, lavender and soft hues suit, with white roses, lilies and carnations being classic choices for a respectful arrangement.
Hindu Funerals
White flowers are customary, with wreaths or arrangements in white or cream considered suitable and respectful.
Malay and Muslim Funerals
It is often customary not to send flowers unless you know the family would welcome the gesture. When unsure, a quiet word of condolence or a later visit may be more appropriate than flowers.
Timing and Delivery
Flowers should ideally arrive before the wake or service begins, so the family can place them appropriately. It is best to arrange a wreath a day in advance to avoid any delay, and to confirm the wake address and timing with the family or funeral director.
What to Write on the Card
Keep your message sincere, brief and gentle. You do not need eloquent words, only honest ones. A few examples:
“With deepest sympathy. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.”
“In loving memory. May you find comfort in the days ahead.”
“So sorry for your loss. Sending you strength and our heartfelt condolences.”
“Our thoughts are with you. He will be dearly missed.”
Sign it simply with your name, or your family or company name where appropriate. Avoid overly long messages; a short, heartfelt line is always enough.
Sending With Care
Choose white, respectful blooms, mind the family’s customs, arrange delivery before the wake, and write a brief, sincere note. Done with care, condolence flowers offer comfort when words fall short.
If you would like help, our condolence flowers and sympathy arrangements are prepared with these customs in mind and delivered across Singapore, including directly to wakes.
Frequently Asked Questions
What flowers are appropriate for a funeral?
White blooms are the most suitable, especially lilies, chrysanthemums and orchids, as they symbolise peace, purity and respect. Wreaths and standing arrangements are customary at wakes in Singapore.
What do you write on condolence flowers?
Keep it sincere and brief, such as “With deepest sympathy, thinking of you and your family.” Sign with your name or your family or company name. A short, honest message is always enough.
What colour flowers are best for condolences?
White is the traditional colour of sympathy, representing peace and respect. Soft hues like lavender can also be suitable. Avoid bright, cheerful colours, which can feel out of place.
When should condolence flowers be delivered?
Aim for them to arrive before the wake or service begins so the family can arrange them. Order a day ahead where possible, and confirm the wake address and timing first.